Do you live your Life at Cause or at Effect?
Ask yourself.

Being at cause means that you are decisive in creating what you want in life. You see yourself now working towards what you see yourself in the future as. You believe that you alone are responsible for what happens to you and therefore have the power to make things better. You see the world as a place of opportunity and you move towards achieving what you desire. If things are not unfolding as you would like, you take action and explore other possibilities. Above all, you know you have choices in what you do and how you react to people and events.

Adding on, it also means you have choices in your life; you can choose what is best for you while ensuring the choice is “friendly” for those around you, in your community and your society. When I say "friendly", it means to consider the consequences of your actions on others, while not taking responsibility for their emotional well-being. Well, this is not exactly selfish.

If you are at effect, you may blame others or circumstances for your bad moods, for your lack of achievements and other problems. You may feel powerless or depend on others to feel good about yourself or about life. You need constant push from your surroundings to make your day better. You may think, “If only my spouse, my boss, my co-workers, my parents, my children understood me and helped me achieve my dreams or did what I wanted or what is best for me, then life would be great.” You tend to place more emphasize on the aftermath rather than the process.

Those who live their lives at effect, often see themselves as victims with no choices whatsoever. Am I right to say that? They’re unable to see that they do have choices but have simply chosen not to take action. They are simply reactive to whatever is thrust upon them. Emotions such as guilt, fear, anxiety and resentment are the result of being at effect. People at effect tend to blame others and do not take responsibility for their actions.

Bugger, don't ask me why I've such questions in my head. I'm thinking, "Growing girl la deyy." For me, it's cause but there are times I fell into the effect pithole. Honestly, we all do. Can a person always live his life at cause? Probably not, but you can make it a bigger and more important part of your life. When you do find yourself being at effect, try to understand what it’s doing to you, and explore ways to overcome it in future.

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